Since I can remember, Maria & I have always wanted to help people. I think we get this attribute from our father, because throughout our lives he’s helped many people for nothing in return but to see them smile. Then again, anyone in our family would bend over backwards to help out someone in need.
We started this blog almost a year and a half ago because we wanted to share our experiences of eating healthy and staying active in hopes to inspire others to hop on board. We really wanted to help people get healthy and in return be happy with themselves.
I will stop working for my family’s business soon to be a stay at home mom. I feel truly blessed that I will have that opportunity and be able to be by Roberto’s side every moment of his first few years and watch all the little things he will do as he grows. I really want to do at least 1 year of online schooling during this time to learn even more about nutrition and become a health coach. I’d love to help people change their lifestyles and I think it would be the perfect job to have once my kids aren’t toddlers anymore.
Lately, Maria & I have been feeling that we’re not really inspiring people with our website and maybe just blogging about our lifestyles is a waste of time. We’ve made semi-drastic changes to our diet over this time and it makes some people uncomfortable when they’re around us. We don’t eat nearly as much sugar as we used to and we eat very little grains now. Family parties can be awkward sometimes when people are used to you hoarding the sweet table! We take our health seriously and really focus on nourishing our bodies with nutritious foods and preventing illnesses and diseases. We’ve recently had multiple occasions where we felt people that we know were judging us on what we eat or how we look.
I, personally, have struggled with comments in regards to my pregnancy.
I don’t want to go into too many details, but it’s happened more than once where someone will make a comment on how “small” my belly looks and it’s because I “eat too healthy” or “workout like crazy.”
Yes, I know that my weight gain hasn’t been typical and on the low side, but it really puts me down when someone makes a negative comment about it. I know we will all be judged in many areas throughout our lives, but when the comments have to do with my unborn son, it’s a different story.
It really bothers me that someone would think for a split second that I’m causing Roberto harm. I’ve never had any past eating disorders and have no problem eating when I’m hungry. (Which is all the time lately!) I’ve been eating plenty during my pregnancy and getting in a lot of calories, fat and nutrients. I also don’t consider walking 3 days a week, strength training for 45 minutes twice a week and maybe a day of yoga as working out like crazy. That’s just staying active… I’m not working out to burn calories or fat, but to stay strong and keep my endurance up for the birth of my child.
Sure, I could stuff my face with donuts, twinkies and cupcakes all day and maybe gain more weight, but that would just be plain silly. Something tells me that sugar and processed foods wouldn’t be the best thing for a baby who’s brain is growing at a significant rate right now. My doctor is not concerned at all and tells me at every single appointment that everything looks great and I’m doing everything right. He never mentioned anything about me not gaining or growing enough. I brought it up to him, and he told me that everything on my charts looked perfect.
Why do we always have to judge one another and make unnecessary comments? It’s either “WOW you’re huge” or “OMG you’re so small, are you not eating enough?” It’s not often we hear anyone say you look just perfect, keep up the good work! Maria and I aren’t the “speak your mind” kind of people. We truly believe that if you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. It’s not about a right to speak your mind, but about being kind and not judging one another. You can’t tell a person’s story just by looking at them from the outside.
I feel like it’s only the people we know that read our blog that make the negative comments. I just think it’s funny because I personally think that I’ve been growing slowly but surely. There’s not a night that goes by, where I change into my pjs, and Rinaldo doesn’t tell me how big my belly is getting! People at work, who don’t know about our blog, tell me each week that I’m getting bigger and bigger and have never said anything negative or about me being “small.”
Well, I don’t want to go on forever here, but just wanted to update on how we’ve been feeling lately. This has all affected me because I’m trying so hard to grow a healthy baby and make sure to get all the recommended foods in daily (It’s not fun eating 2 eggs everyday…I’m getting sick of them) and it hurts when someone makes a comment that I’m not doing it right or for them to think I’m restricting myself. I guess I just had enough this week and had some thoughts that it’s not worth it to blog about our personal lives and have people judge us or make assumptions about us.
Maria feels the same way in regards to people judging her on what she does and doesn’t eat, but that’s an entirely different story… ha! She actually gets very angry and protective whenever I mention any negative comments that I get. I guess it’s because she knows just how hard I’m working to nourish Roberto while he’s growing inside of me. She’s the first person I’d go to when I’d notice that the scale wasn’t going up, but I was eating so much! I honestly never in a million years thought I’d have this problem. Maria & I used to joke ALL the time that when we got pregnant we’d gain 10 pounds by the time we just peed on the stick.. We never had problems gaining weight in the past, that’s for sure!
Thanks to all of you who commented on our status update on Facebook. You truly made us feel good with all your love and support and we’re going to reconsider giving up the blog. We’re still not sure what we want to do in the end, but we do know that we loved blogging for the most part and have met so many wonderful people and learned so much in the process. I also want to note that many people close to me have said such nice things to me and how much they love my pregnancy posts! I need to focus more on those people.
As Ellen DeGeneres says at the end of her show, Be Kind To One Another.
Do you ever feel like giving up your blog? Sometimes we just want our lives to be more private, but on the other hand we love sharing our experiences and tips with everyone.
How do you handle negative comments in your life?